sie

Sie is a pronoun that serves the same grammatical function as he or she, except that it’s gender-neutral. Sie is typically used by people who identify as nonbinary or genderqueer, meaning that their gender identify falls outside of the strict binary of only male or only female.

For those who identify in one of these ways and who are deciding which pronouns to use, there are a lot of options.

The most commonly used is nonbinary they. Some pronouns similar to sie include zie, ze, zhe, xe, xie, ve, and ce.

However, it should be noted that these shouldn’t be considered synonyms of sie in the sense that they are interchangeable when referring to the same person—the pronouns the person has specified are the ones that should be used.

Sie is often used as part of the sie/sier/sier set of pronouns, but it may be used as part of other, similar sets.

In the next section, we’ll break down some of the nonbinary pronoun sets that people use.

First and foremost: if someone says they use sie as one of their pronouns, that’s what you should use when referring to them. Some people might use a mix of pronouns, such as sie and they, in which case you can use either one, or both at different times.

There are a lot of different nonbinary pronouns, and it can seem overwhelming. To help, here is a chart of some (not all) nonbinary pronouns, along with the grammatical function of each one to help you understand how they’re used (and conjugated).

You can plug each set into this sentence to see how each pronoun is used:

[Column 1 subject form] told me to text [column 2 object form], but I don’t have [column 3 possessive form] number. 

In many (but not all) cases, the possessive pronoun form (the one equivalent to theirs, as in That book is theirs) is simply formed by adding -s to the possessive adjective form (the one that’s equivalent to their): That book is siers. Similarly, the reflexive form (the one equivalent to themself) is often formed by simply adding -self to the object form (the one that’s equivalent to them): sierself.

Sie is a personal pronoun. It’s singular.

But before we get too grammatical, it should be noted that sie is what’s called a neopronoun. A neopronoun is a gender-neutral pronoun that has been recently coined to fill the lack of gender-neutral options in English (not all gender-neutral pronouns are neopronouns—singular they has been used for centuries).

Grammatically speaking, sie is categorized as a third person pronoun (like he, she, him, her, and them), meaning that it’s used to refer to anyone other than the person doing the addressing (first person) or the ones being addressed (second person).

Sie is a nominative pronoun, meaning that it’s generally used as the subject of a sentence—the one doing the action—as opposed to the object (the one on the receiving end of some action). A common objective form of sie is sier, as in Ze asked me to drive sier home. However, other object forms may be used.

For more, check out our guide to gender-neutral pronouns.

And our guide to gender-neutral language.

The neopronoun sie is typically pronounced see.