First and foremost: if someone says they use xyr as one of their pronouns, that’s what you should use when referring to them. Some people might use a mix of pronouns, such as xyr and their, in which case you can use either one, or both at different times.

There are a lot of different nonbinary pronouns, and it can seem overwhelming. To help, here is a chart of some (not all) nonbinary pronouns, along with the grammatical function of each one to help you understand how they’re used (and conjugated).

You can plug each set into this sentence to see how each pronoun is used:

[Column 1 subject form] told me to text [column 2 object form], but I don’t have [column 3 possessive form] number.

subject form (same grammatical function as he, she, and nonbinary they)	object form (same grammatical function as him, her, and nonbinary them)	possessive adjective form (same grammatical function as his, her, and nonbinary their)
xe	xem	xyr
xie	xem	xyr
xe	xim	xis
xe	xir	xir
xe	hir	hir
ze	zir	zir
ze	zan	zan
zie	zir	zir
zhe	zhim	zhir
sie	sier	sier
ce	cir	cir
ve	vir	vir
ve	vir	vis

In many (but not all) cases, the possessive pronoun form (the one equivalent to theirs, as in That book is theirs) is simply formed by adding s to the possessive adjective form (the one that’s equivalent to their): That book is xyrs. Similarly, the reflexive form (the one equivalent to themself) is often formed by simply adding self to the object form (the one that’s equivalent to them): xemself.

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WORDS RELATED TO XYR

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vis

your

zir

their