unbecoming

“It’s unbecoming of the office in which you represent.”

Rather than being reported to the police the incident was recorded as "inappropriate behaviour unbecoming of a warrant officer".

“It's unbecoming . . . the way a man's lip purses. The size of the straw is too dainty.”

“By assaulting your neighbor and being convicted of a felony, you engaged in conduct unbecoming a fire captain,” Deputy Fire Chief Thomas Ewald wrote in a January 2023 termination letter.

The inspector general concluded Finerty had violated the code of military justice, including “conduct unbecoming an officer and a gentleman” for his “inappropriate relationships” with all five women.