come to grips with

Previously unseen bodycam footage taken after the collapse shows first responders and officials struggling to come to grips with the enormity of what they faced in the confusing hours after the crash.

“We are considering abduction or trafficking. That’s something the family had to come to grips with over the past couple of weeks, but that doesn’t mean we’re losing hope or giving up.”

Democrats are already engaged in considerable soul-searching, as they come to grips with an election defeat that has delivered the White House, the Senate and, perhaps, the House of Representatives to Republican control.

The next day, the shellshocked parents struggled to come to grips with the financial toll of the incident and the catastrophic sentimental loss.

Now as nations mourn and tributes pile up, as her work is praised, characterized and categorized, as we come to grips with the fact that we will never have a chance to see what she would have done next, we very much do.